While we’re on this whole subject of not taking things personally and the fact that what other people think of you says more about them than anything, how about a couple more Ideas to really bring the point home?
First, ink blobs. Ever heard of Rorschach tests? Basically, psychologists can sneak a peek into their patients’ consciousness by asking them to describe what they see when they look at a picture of an ink blob. Now, there’s *nothing* in the ink blob (other than blobbiness), but what the patient says they see tells us a lot about what’s going on inside their little noggin.
Second, emptiness. It’s a Buddhist concept that basically says everything is empty of meaning—everything is inherently NEUTRAL (kinda like that ink blob). The meaning we give to any particular empty/neutral experience is often an unconscious expression of how we see the world. So, if I’m a pissy person, I’ll interpret a neutral event negatively; whereas, if I’m a happy person, I’ll interpret that same event in a more empowering way.
Now, the cool thing about this whole emptiness business is the fact that, given the inherent “emptiness” of any given situation, every moment has a “hidden potential”—we can train ourselves to CHOOSE the most empowering perspective.
And, ultimately, that’s what it’s all about, eh?
Ink blobs and emptiness. Good stuff.